Life happens. You are getting married regardless of the events and circumstances of individuals around you. Especially with the ceremony, you need a guarantee that the officiant will be there to marry you. Whether it is a scheduling conflict, illness, an unforeseen happening you want to have a team of officiants available to you so that any member can rotate and fill-in in case of emergency. That is the difference between the best wedding officiants and other officiants who you are booking just by themselves. Why wouldn't you want to have the power of a team of individuals ready to fill-in at a moments notice?
They say expect the unexpected. That statement is definitely true when it comes to weddings. Outside of all the activity going on leading up to the ceremony, getting everyone together for the marriage license signing and the lining up for the processional is sometimes a victory in itself. Below are just some of the "special events" I have experienced as an officiant:
- Being rained on and performing the ceremony in the rain
- Having a gazebo trellis fall over mid-ceremony
- Microphone not working
- Best man forgetting the rings
- Drunk groom and cold feet
- Late arriving bride or groom and even bride and groom parents
There has yet to be a couple I haven't married. As an officiant you need to be confident and a leader to make sure that the show must go on.
I am going to try to answer this question by comparing it to a couple other areas of our lives where we might consider a family member to help.
How about buying or selling a home? Maybe if they are licensed and have experience. You would want someone that knows the market and is able to find you the best possible deal.
How about tutoring or teaching your kids? Yes, if they have spent the time educating other children and know how to engage and motivate your child.
The same holds true for a wedding officiant. You want to have someone who possesses the ability to speak in front of a large audience. You want someone that knows how to keep the ceremony on track in case the unexpected (i.e. the best man forgets the rings) happens. You want to have someone that has worked with the various vendors and venues before.
So should you have a family member officiate your ceremony? Maybe. It all depends if they are experienced and have the right skills for the job.
You have spent countless hours planning your big day and carefully selecting the perfect venue, flowers, and music. When it comes to the officiant, sometimes couples just feel that anyone will do and do not apply the same type of criteria.
The ceremony is the first impression, it is the time that photos will be taken and guests will hear what your marriage is about. The officiant sets the atmosphere for the entire evening. You want someone that is confident, someone that can speak clearly and can keep the guests engaged.
The last thing you need is an officiant that adds in their own commentary or words making remarks or "jokes" that people find embarrassing or awkward. You also don't want someone that will hide and read the ceremony word for word without making eye contact.
As you decide on an officiant, keep the above suggestions in mind as you determine who want to select for one of the most important days of your life.